This generation knows how to fall in love but often forgets how to stay in love.
We live in a time of instant messages, instant attraction, instant exits. Relationships are celebrated on social media but silently struggle. Many couples love each other deeply, yet feel empty, disconnected, or easily shaken. Why? Because the source of love has been replaced by emotions, expectations, and temporary happiness.
A relationship without Christ at the centre is like a plant without roots. It may look beautiful for a season, but when heat comes, it withers.
The Bible shows us a different design. “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labour in vain.” – Psalm 127:1
Without God, we try to build love on our own strength. We depend on our partner to complete us, heal us, or make us happy. But no human can carry that weight. Only Jesus can.
Where this generation is struggling
Many couples today:
– communicate daily but rarely pray together
– express love but struggle to forgive
– share pictures but not spiritual purpose
– stay connected online but drift apart at heart
We seek perfect partners instead of becoming godly partners.
The Bible calls us back to the root. “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” – Matthew 6:33
When both husband and wife seek God first, love becomes stronger naturally. Peace replaces pressure. Grace replaces ego.
What does keeping Christ at the centre look like in daily life?
- It is simple, practical, and powerful.
- It is praying together before making decisions.
- It is choosing gentle words during arguments.
- It is serving each other when tired.
- It is forgiving quickly, just as Christ forgave us.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32. Christ-cantered love is not weak; it is sacrificial. It says, I choose you even on difficult days.
The power of spiritual roots
- A tree with deep roots survives strong winds.
- A couple with deep faith survives strong seasons.
- “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
When Jesus becomes the third strand, separation becomes harder, healing becomes faster, and hope becomes constant.
The solution for modern love
The answer is not better chemistry. Not more romance. Not more freedom.
The answer is returning to the Source.
– Worship together.
– Read the Word together.
– Encourage each other’s spiritual growth.
– Remind one another of God’s promises.
When couples grow closer to Christ, they automatically grow closer to each other.
True Couple Goals
Real couple goals are not perfection.
They are two people saying: “We will follow Jesus, even when it costs us pride, comfort, or convenience.”
It is building a home where God is welcome, prayers are normal, forgiveness is quick, and love reflects Christ.
“Above all, love each other deeply.” – 1 Peter 4:8
